How all of this craziness began
It was the beginning of 2016 when I decided to jump head first into this crazy thing that is called being a stay at home mom (or SAHM for those of you who like to abbreviate). Why did I do this? Well, I had finally decided that enough was enough and that working retail was literally going to be the death of me. So I did what any totally sane single mother would do and quit my job. Yep I sure did. I know… that is the definition of insane right? Right.
I know what you must be thinking, “Wow she must be legitimately crazy” , “She must do this kinda thing often”, or “I bet she just quit so she can go shopping whenever she wants and take naps!” (No to the first and second. However there may be some truth to that last one.) In all honesty though, it ultimately came down to the fact that I missed my son so much when I was working and felt that I was not present enough for important milestones. As I mentioned above, I am a single mother and for those of you who have been through parenting a child or children alone, it is not an easy task. I felt like an octopus trying to juggle time with my son, going to work, going to school, and bettering our lives. If you ask me… it’s absolutely exhausting!!!
What I discovered
So I did it. I quit my stable supervisor job and started being a stay at home mom. My son and I celebrated for the first couple of weeks because we had SO much time together to do whatever we wanted. But of course, over time it kind of hit me that I made a rash decision and was no longer bringing in money. Yikes!!! (How the heck was I supposed to spend my days shopping without any weekly income?! It’s a joke. I don’t shop THAT much.) So of course, like most bored people or those that need inspiration, I powered up the computer and started searching through the all mighty app called Pinterest. (Every time I think of Pinterest I hear angelical music in my head because that site is absolutely incredible!). I searched night after night trying to figure out how I could possibly continue to stay at home with my son, which I loved more than anything, and still bring money in. I finally found the perfect site hustle and like typical ole me.. I dove right into that as well. It has been a HUGE blessing to my son and I because it helps the money situation and also helps me save for extra fun things like stay-cations and surprises. (I will have a separate post about what my money maker turned out to be!)
What I have learned
I have now been a SAHM for over a year and have been so blessed with my life. Whenever someone asks me what I do for a job and I tell that I work from home AND am a single mom… I can see their expressions immediately because most people have absolutely no clue how many options are out there. I also am asked a lot of how I am able to manage staying at home with my son and staying sane. I think that is the main kicker because who wouldn’t love to quit their job and be able to spend their mornings, afternoons and nights with their kids?? I came up with this simple list that helps me stay sane, positive and active.
- Make a daily exercise routine and STICK TO IT. For me personally, I get up in the early morning with my son and we go for a run/walk. This is something that we don’t skip unless the weather is unforgiving or one of us is really sick.
- Get the heck outta dodge as much as possible. For Brayden and I, we love exploring so we try to get out of the house every couple of days. Whether it is walking around the mall, going to the library, or visiting new places.
- UNPLUG AND ENGAGE with your child. It is super easy to get wrapped up into sitting on the couch with your kid and staring at a screen half the day. DON’T DO IT. IT’S A TRAP. Come up with activities to do together and you would be amazed at how fun it can be.
- Last but definitely not least… take care of yourself. To be perfectly honest, this is the one I struggle with the most. As a mother you get so used to doing absolutely everything for your baby that it is hard to remember that you need some TLC as well. Shower daily. Paint your dang nails. Read stupid fashion magazines or tabloids. Relax in the bathtub. Get dressed up and put on some makeup. YOU brought this tiny human into the world and deserve to be treated like a damn angel.
Is being a SAHM right for me?
People love to ask where I got my inspiration from to quit a job I hated and do my own thing and my one answer is this… why waste time doing things I know won’t benefit anything other than my wallet? I want my son to grow up knowing his momma loves him to death. That she did everything so could do to grow his mind, strengthen his heart and show kindness to everyone around him. That right there is MY job. Am I paid to do that? Nope. Do I care? Absolutely not. This was the best decision I have made for us and wouldn’t change it for the world.
Are you able to be a SAHM? That is ultimately up to you honey. There are definitely others who are much more calculated than I was and would weigh the pros and cons before deciding. For me… All I needed to know was that I would be okay and that things would unfold how they were supposed to.
What’s life without a little adventure and risk?